This One's for the Girls
by Morgan Belisle
Note: This blog is not directly running related. But we’ll allow it. Men, you can read this too! We know you’re out there crushing it, too, and thank you for supporting us while we hustle right there next to you.
A quick look at my Facebook feed this morning greeted me with a photo of my mom with my two littlest nieces. My sister had posted in honor of National Day of the Girl. I took a beat to acknowledge the sweetness, then I went on with my morning, quickly falling into my work day routine of getasmuchdoneasfastaspossiblebeforework. As I flipped French toast with one hand and unloaded the dishwasher with another, I caught myself thinking, “I’m not going to have time to…” --- and then I quickly stopped myself. Why was I choosing to focus on all the things I wasn’t getting right or perfect?
You’ve read it a million times before, so this is nothing new or earth-shattering. A lot of us spend too much time with the negative. What needs to get better. What needs to change. What we don’t do enough of is, one, actually changing and two, acknowledging what we do well! I want to focus on that second part.
I’m trying to break the cycle of the negative self-talk. Instead of telling you about how I through my hair up in a (not cute) messy bun this morning or that I haven’t dusted my house in…well…let’s just say a hot minute, and my to-do list is three miles long and I didn’t make time to read to my kids this morning (oops, there I go!), I’m going to spend some time thinking about all the things I did accomplish before 8:30 in the morning.
I got myself up, showered, ready for work. I got two kids dressed and teeth brushed. I made, served, and cleaned up a hot breakfast for my kids. I made a healthy breakfast choice for myself with an Arbonne shake. I changed two diapers. I did some business banking. I worked with my three-year-old on how to pull up his own underwear without getting frustrated. I diagnosed where the pee smell is coming from in my downstairs bathroom (thank you, potty training). I emptied the dishwasher. I did two loads of laundry. I vacuumed. I didn’t lose my sh*t when my kids fought over a toy. I was patient with myself and the little humans. I pet my dog. I responded to two emails. I planned this blog in my head. I called my credit card company to dispute a fraud claim. I got my running clothes ready for after work. I kissed my kiddos and didn’t feel guilty about leaving them for a few hours with their amazing caregiver. I started writing this down.
Dude, it’s only 9:11 am.
Why did my brain want to criticize everything I didn’t get right? So what if the bed only got half-made this morning? So what if there’s no way I can get everything done today that I “should.” There are only so many minutes of the day. And you know what all that negative self-talk does? It spills out into my attitude and presence. It affects the people around me and it makes me feel bad.
So, on this Day of the Girl, I want to be a voice that says, you know what? Give yourself some grace. If you didn’t get your walk in yesterday or didn’t hit your training paces or you were late for an appointment or you or you or you…whatever. Acknowledge what you want to do better. Set a plan or make a goal if it’s a priority to you and change it. If it’s not the priority right now? Let it go. Move forward. Be kind to yourself. Be proud of what you do well and give yourself some credit! All you can do is what you can do, so just do the best at that. Let’s be the generation of women who teach the generation of girls that they are enough and they don’t have to “do it all” at once because we truly believe that about ourselves.
And to my sweet little nieces (all six of you!) – you are awesome!
P.S. If it’s not painfully obvious, I just finished reading Girl, Wash your Face by Rachel Hollis, and I’d really recommend it to all the ladies out there!